Some of the
work-life stress we experience is the result of our discomfort with asserting
ourselves. It's a lot easier to solve
problems and get our needs met if we are able to confidently speak up!
worrying that you'll be seen as aggressive.
We all know what aggressive sounds and looks like,
and chances are it's not you. Aggressiveness usually means acting selfishly and not regarding the
needs of others. Assertiveness is about
open communication which is respectful of everyone involved.
the reasons why you want to speak up.
The more confident you are in your message, the more
willing you'll be to take a risk and speak your mind.
the cost of not saying anything.
Is it possible that by staying
silent, you're not portraying the professional confidence needed to lead to a
promotion? Or maybe your silence unintentionally
communicates agreement with the division of household chores, even though you
want them renegotiated.
ask a question when you really want to make a statement.
Letting your tone of voice rise at
the end of a sentence communicates that you're unsure of what you're
saying. By consciously dropping your
voice tone at the end of a statement, your words gain strength and you increase
conscious of your body language.
Your physical presence needs to mirror the confidence in
your words. Keep your posture upright
with a slight forward lean, arms open (not crossed in front of you), maintain good
eye contact, and focus on speaking slowly and clearly.
undermine yourself with your own words.
Rather than just stating an opinion, women have a tendency
to add unnecessary phrases to statements, such as "Don't you think?" "I may be wrong..." and "Forgive me if this is a dumb question..." Others will take you more seriously if you directly state, "I have some concerns about the timeline of this project."
Faun Zarge helps people find solutions for their work-life challenges.
She offers her practical, realistic strategies through a wide variety of highly interactive and engaging seminars. Please feel free to contact Faun directly to discuss how she might help your organization.