Building Relationships for Better Balance
who works to help you find time for yourself, it might surprise you that I'm
suggesting you invest more time in something...your relationships. It may seem counterintuitive, but when push
comes to shove and we're overwhelmed by our many roles and responsibilities,
it's going to be the people in our life who will help us when we need it
the most. Here are some simple ways to
know your colleagues, and let them know you.
When co-workers know each other well and are familiar
with the stressors which may be affecting them (i.e. caring for an elderly
parent), the atmosphere naturally becomes more cooperative. If this initially feels uncomfortable, start
by asking about their weekend plans or the photos on their desk. Be mindful of personal boundaries, but
definitely make the effort to learn more about your colleagues; it is an
investment well worth your time.
your colleagues in unexpected ways.
Offer to help a co-worker who is struggling with a new
software program. Give your colleague
the data they requested a few days before their deadline. Ask how you might help when you notice
they're overwhelmed. These sincere
gestures help build collegiality and create an environment where you will be
supported when you are the one in need.
know co-workers outside your team.
There are a lot of people in your organization who
are critical to your success, but if we're honest, we'll admit that many of us
don't interact with them unless we're in the middle of a crisis. When your computer crashes, the folks in IT
will probably come to your rescue a lot faster if you've developed a
relationship with them and treated them well.
your "service providers" well and they'll return the favor.
Our hectic lives often necessitate
making special requests of our day care provider, plumber, auto mechanic,
etc. Have you recently shown
appreciation for how they keep your life running? Rest assured, when you're running late and
won't make it to the dry cleaner until after closing, they're more likely to
leave your clothes for you at the Thai restaurant next door if they know and
like you. (True story!)
friends and family a priority.
Text your partner asking how the presentation went; drop off
flowers for a friend who's having a tough week, or simply turn the computer off
so you can be fully present with your family. Our friends and family often take a back seat
when we're busy; however, it is those very people who are most vital to our well
being and who make the insanity of our daily lives worth it.
Faun Zarge helps people find solutions for their work-life challenges.
She offers her practical, realistic strategies through a wide variety of highly interactive and engaging seminars. Please feel free to contact Faun directly to discuss how she might help your organization.