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Say "NO" More Often


Happy New Year!  In additional to the typical resolutions we make this time of year-- more veggies, fewer Double Stuff Oreos-- add one more resolution to your list and challenge yourself to say "no" more frequently.  While this is easier said than done, it is one of the most effective ways to start balancing your work and personal life.



  1. Determine what's most important to you.

Immediately take out a piece of paper and write down the three most important priorities in your life right now.  Be brutally honest.  When you truly understand your priorities, you will make better decisions about how to effectively use your time.



  1. Don't commit until you're sure what's being asked of you.

Get in the habit of asking for more information.  Once you have the necessary details, it will be much easier to determine how you want to respond.



  1. Remember that it's almost always OK to ask for time to think it over.

With the exception of some time sensitive situations, it is perfectly reasonable to say, "Let me check my schedule and get back to you." 



  1. Say "NO" confidently and without over apologizing.

Using confident body language, simply explain that you're unable to help at this time.  This demonstrates that you're secure in your decision. 



  1. Offer another way to help.

Although you may decline someone's initial request, you might be able to propose a different way to lend a hand.  For example, you might not have time to formally join a committee, but can still offer your availability to brainstorm ideas. 



  1. Practice!

Learning to say "no" will take some time, but by practicing these skills in everyday situations it will become much easier.

Faun Zarge helps people find solutions for their work-life challenges.
She offers her practical, realistic strategies through a wide variety of highly interactive and engaging seminars.  Please feel free to contact Faun directly to discuss how she might help your organization.


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