Say "NO" More Often
Happy New Year! In additional to the typical resolutions we
make this time of year-- more veggies, fewer Double Stuff Oreos-- add one more
resolution to your list and challenge yourself to say "no" more
frequently. While this is easier said
than done, it is one of the most effective ways to start balancing your work
and personal life.
- Determine what's most important to you.
take out a piece of paper and write down the three most important priorities in
your life right now. Be brutally
honest. When you truly understand your
priorities, you will make better decisions about how to effectively use your
- Don't commit until you're sure what's being
asked of you.
in the habit of asking for more information.
Once you have the necessary details, it will be much easier to determine
how you want to respond.
- Remember that it's almost always OK to ask for
time to think it over.
the exception of some time sensitive situations, it is perfectly reasonable to
say, "Let me check my schedule and get back to you."
- Say "NO" confidently and without over
confident body language, simply explain that you're unable to help at this
time. This demonstrates that you're
secure in your decision.
- Offer another way to help.
you may decline someone's initial request, you might be able to propose a
different way to lend a hand. For
example, you might not have time to formally join a committee, but can still
offer your availability to brainstorm ideas.
to say "no" will take some time, but by practicing these skills in everyday
situations it will become much easier.